I still have the birthday present he had sent me back in September lying around here unopened (I did not even open the shipping box it came in- dont know what to do with it). Ju gets very upset with me when I bring my ex in the pic and that day, I called him to visit my son at the hospital. I stop the car and say. however I did it by never disclosing any of my position and being being happy assertive and holding my ground. I then started catching him with different girls friends several times but every time he would say that he love me and that he needed some time to think about our relationship. I am that woman you just described.mine has lost the best friend and love he could have possibly ever had in his life, I still miss him, think of him all day despite hes giving me the silent treatment and I just dont know why I am still thinking of him even though hes been treating me like crap. I was alone in another country. Stop obsessing sleep support+ Wow, seems to fit me to a tee. Your life has endless possibilities and I know you can find them! It's a kind of Concern Trolling. I said my piece a few days ago, about how it takes two and why I was upset. The devil will trick us and trick us to get us to become little evil minions, but dont do it. Narcissists can hover for months or years. He went silent immediately. I know a lot of times that word is thrown around too much to describe men that really arent narcissistic. He had said in these texts that I was this crappy person and this crappy personI sent a text that basically said he didnt appreciate me and I put up with alls this and thisand I listed itlike gaslighting and passive aggressive behavior. when he broke up with me, i was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me. How To Flirt And Approach Your Gym Crush? I know I am being very insensitive with my comments but what this woman needs is a wake up call. he came knocking on my door one night and I called 911. truth is they prob dont even remember why or what led them to be who they are now truly cruel people. Over time they start to devalue you and in doing so, eliminate your ability to make them feel better about themselves. Promise you! By allowing that we have no discriminations as we dont take enough time whether to trust them or ourselves in terms of compatibility . In a study published in Personality and Individual Differences, my student, Brooke Schlott, and I explored these questions. I first met Allan. I caved. Rebuild yourself. I know this as I am now a useless. To meet a friend so I know. You will be the one to beg for forgiveness and acquiesce to their demands. and send his picture. Contact Us. I believed and gave him the information needed and in three days my husband came back to me. Going silent with them lets them know youre not a viable source of supply. do not under any circumstances attack his character. A version of you thats not at all close to who you really are. He says. I was finally able to use every ounce of strength and get him away from the door so I could get out. Seeing how he can treat me, I refuse to let him brainwash my daughter! He gets to do nothing but drink. I for some reason believed him took him back. And selfish he will do anything to get what he wants. Calling my family members. My god. As Im a sucker. There is no specific time frame for this behavior; your best option is to close the door on them and never look back. Feeling desperate, depressed, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, exhausted, I decided to let him keep my son for a bit. I iam going threw the same thing right now we have been together for 3 and married for 1 and it has been the worst year of my life. He was eloquent and knew all the ways to keep me interested. I told her I thought she was a narcissist after all of the behavior and reading it up online and talking to friends that are psych majors. I was in Hospital for about 2.5 weeks and when admitted I was extremely weak from malnutrition, I had broken ribs, 2 fairly large lacerations on the lower part of my left leg, another on my left knee and gashed knuckles on my right hand. are predators. They don't care if you're crying over them. When we returned from the trip I started to maintain my distance and met a psychologist who explained to me that I was with a person with classic symptoms of NPD. Hes no good ???? Im so hurt and frustrated. Well, she is trouble and manipulative etc BUT so is HE. Hes trying to make me look irrational and insane in front of everyone. Well I should have known better. I was once very strong and bright like you. The goal is to sow seeds of doubt, uncertainty, guilt, self-recrimination and fear. I was already getting help for codependency but the more I learn I realized what he was..a monster..he kept me isolated from the world and the autism didnt help it either. But let me first understand if I am a narcissist , sociopaths or a true heart possibly I shall be one of those classified analysis .. what we sow is what we reap and it works vice versa .. we see relationships from the community that goes on for years and years , my question is were u and ur psychopathic narcissist sociopathic boy/girlfriend did not feel love atleast a day and if that was not right what were the chances that had to spend lot of time with the people you blame .. let me point this , if you dont feel the mental compatibility in the beginning of even a small chat or if you dont spend a time together without a kiss for atleast a considerable amount of time and if you still feel the same way you felt when you started off your relationship let be me honest .. dont pretend that you are living on somebodys shoes maybe my partner who broke up with me had a different situation altogether as we have been breaking up for over 10 times in a month . OMG Michele he is pure evil. Its helping! she is a total liar and a fraud. He was always chatting with so called female friends. He got worse in crossing every boundary I had including name calling, screaming, threatening to leave when he would come back after DAYS of not answering texts ( I felt crazy, I would text over and over demanding an answer. To all of you women who have been the official girl friend/wife and who maybe discovers an affair or two: BEWARE! Thats not to say no contact is a bad idea though; if communication continued after you broke up with them, they would almost certainly lure you back in. I know one things for sure! Theyre less likely to return to you if they find a consistent source of supply. Thanks to the information I was able to research, I learned a huge amount of information on the subject. I know it sounds stupid but be glad he is not making a fuss. He too was in middle of divorce. With my current situation I decided going back last month. When you add that less than 1 in 100 people have an NPD then its clear this label is being used to manipulate people. Hit Rock Bottom from leaving going back etc. ON HER OWN> I stayed away, ALTHOUGH it was hard. .. Dont let him take who you are! Funny smart. If I werent miles and miles from home I would have walked away from him that instant. Yes, his mother is a full-blown narcissist and even he said she was when I first started dating him.he was reading a book on narcissism and underling things that he saw in his mother. Save. It would require EFFORT on his part. Not during my important work projects. Long story short, this narcissistic woman is my first love. We were divorced a year before I actually realized it was for REAL. Meanwhile he has established a relationship with his new source of supply, bought himself a brand new Jaguar and was telling the most vicious lies about me. Hes now on a smear campaign. (By the way Ive been diagnosed with BPD and Im in treatmentso Im not particularly healthynmyself..not judging. I was really convince, I quickly contacted him I explain all my problem to him, he told me that i should not worry that all my problems will be solved immediately. When I compare the 2, my mother wins in the most vile and evil person on earth! Actually, my N didnt give a crap at all. I met him almost 2 years ago. I start to realize he never lets me see him on his phone or if i tuch it he would freak out. Any advice or suggestions? You can learn more about it if you find videos on YouTube as well about demons and the Jezebel spirit one of the most dangerous of all! Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. After two affairs I finally had the courage to kick him out 7 weeks ago. Another part of me wants to give myself a chance to actually have a life. He was one of the strangest people I have ever known, but fortunately I found Sam Vaknins you tube videos. Narc Rage for being told no. All three children are in on-going counseling, but my ex claims the problems stem from me. A few more weeks down the road, he was spending several nights a week with me until I told him I wanted a real date, you know like outside the house in public. i will drop his email address in case you are passing through the same situation so you can contact him on (((((Ekpentemple at gmail. When he left that night, he asked me if he could kiss me; I let him. I worry about the amour of information online about narcissism. Let's be honest, nobody wins in a breakup. I have read up alot about narcissist in the past and have tried to break the cycle for over two years but someone how he always manipulated his way back into our lives. He had come home that night to get all of his stuff and leave permanently. And feel worthless He starts lieing aboth where hes at taking off. Praying for you Tina! Lots of things happened and we took a trip together with girls including her ex. When I would question him he would tell me that I was crazy and insane and thats why no one would ever want me. What happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you? Feed me all this crap s perfect say. I got so tired of his dramas that i ended up leaving him. High levels of narcissistic admiration were linked to breaking up due to lack of interest in the ex and less sadness and anxiety after a breakup. I must admit the bit about I was 95% responsible for the abuse hurt me, as did the she is normal comment, but this is just more of the same when he is in hating mode. He now says. I explained that I have to finish school, that I really cannot afford a child, that I was SLEEPING when he impregnated me. Another week passed; he came back and his girlfriend followed, knocked on my door and I proceeded to find out that he had been involved with this woman for 17 years and that he had been living with her since before I put him out. I laughed and we took some pics and one of my sisters posted that. He still hasnt gotten over me leaving him, done some very low down rotten things to me..trying to get ppl to think of me as a nothing. After years I found out I was one of 20-50 girls that the N is spinning around. And he was single. And try not to fear anything I know thats nearly impossible though. He did try and tell me he misses me but due to my love for him he sucked me in with his web of lies. They want you to pay for their early childhood trauma. How I dont knew but I imagine something not legal Any ways. he manipulated my child against me while in his toddlers yrs up to the age 8, until my child was old enough to see that dad lies.. it killed him.. the trust he had built through the manipulation his dad did..was traumatizing.. my son wanted to kill himself. AND SAVE THEM. after two days, I was left alone crying and begging. Shitshows at the bar, parking lots, in the car. Until you have dealt with someone with a NPD, you dont know how these ppl do things..they are not normal! So true. Theyre always searching for a source of supply and if they can get it while making you feel like theyre the more emotionally mature and forgiving person in the relationship, all the better. He tried his best to damage my confidence and self esteem but I got out just soon enough. Now that I think of it it is 5days short of exactly 3years from the last contactwhat is it about 3 years? The circumstances of the breakup, your exs mental health and self-esteem, and your willingness to communicate with the narcissist post-relationship all come into play. They hate babys, children animals anything that takes away attention from them. Im not proud of my outbursts, but it all could have been solved with a phone call! He stopped answering my calls and my sms and he stopped seeing me regularly. It came down to them attempting to apologize and want to help me in any way possible but I didnt want anything from any of them, especially the family members he was lying on me to. PostedOctober 23, 2021 All sociopaths are Narcissists but not all Narcissists are Sociopaths, i believe he is a Sociopath & Possibly s Psychopath seeing he gas no problem displaying his evil self. He has already moved on and made sure to rub this into my face via facebook. Theyll say whatever is necessary to get you back in a relationship with them. He just opened his wallet and handed me $500 to go pay my bill, no questions asked. Considering this woman told me she went on the internet to find out where I lived and she got my phone number from his telephone then tracked him to my house and had the gall to knock on my door? Narcissist or what? Everytime she left me, I felt guilty of doing something bad.. like I owed her an explanation. Time to leave me alone. He just showed up at my job on Fathers Day drunk and crying saying he made a mistake that he loved me and needed me back that he would change blah blah blah! Thanks for this realization. Having read this makes much sense and I can honestly say that I realize I am this way but yet so is he. It also came to light last year, that he was dating me and another girl at the same time. We should get married. I will win in the end. Just accepted it. Im truly ruined and dead. Perhaps this was due to us just asking about problems in general, as there might be certain problems, such as their infidelity, that narcissists would be happy to admit to, and other problems that they would not, such as their poor relationship skills. I had also blown up at him in an angry way a couple times, which resulted in blocking me on FB. In addition to completing questionnaires assessing their levels of narcissism, we also asked them a series of questions about that recent breakup: How did the relationship end, how did they feel after the breakup, and how do they currently perceive their ex-partners? It went on for 3 weeks until the final incident was when he had lied to a member of the family and accused me of sleeping with another family member who happened to be his father and a minister. This is only the tip of the iceberg! Translation: a woman he is prepared to tell me about. It can be devastating to have given the best of yourself to a narcissist only to have them find a new partner within weeks of. I know what its like to live with someone with NPD, its awful! they denied themselves the ability to feel a long time ago. The damage has actually impacted my health & well being so severely Ive collapsed three times since January 2016 and each time I was admitted to Hospital. As mentioned earlier, narcissists come after you when youre at your best. We have been dating for the last 4.5 years and weve had our share of issues. So I maintain the No Contact rule and a Not my circus, not my monkey attitude. Some people have had to get retraining orders, to keep people away, do what you have to.They dont always give up so easily, most dont. he would use other women to make me feel jealous. Meanwhile: Charlie Browns teacher , is all that I could hear. From these Predators! In a way, this kind of breakup is a narcissist's cry for help that they're not getting what they want out of the relationship (admiration, sex, control). this is not a SPAM post like the one below. Contact him via email chamberc564@yahoo.com (1) want your ex back. When I I type this I think what an idiot I was, but Im not an idiot I was so in love with this man I would put up with it he would get in my head. and I continued to survive on my own tired and weary of life in general (what a fool I have been). A couple of years ago a friend of mine introduced me to different types of personality disorder which caused me to sorta wake up from the spell. I think the only way to avoid this guy for the next 18+ years would be for you to give up the baby. Wouldt answer texts. All will be fine! Cynthia, What you said about yourself hit me like a sledge hammer. 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